My Spiritual Reality Check

Recently I missed out on an event with my friends that I REALLY wanted to attend, but family circumstances wouldn’t allow it. Ultimately I had to make a choice, and I made the hard one and begged off. Initially, I was ok with the decision but as time drew nearer and the actual event took place and I saw photos on social media and began receiving text messages about the fun that was being had, I was happy to see my friends enjoying themselves, but I was also very jealous that I couldn’t be in attendance.

I’m not usually a jealous person, but considering the fact that I had originally made plans to go and then had to change plans midstream, I let it begin to affect me a little too much.

…but this is why I love the God that I serve! Sometimes we have to be spiritually checked and reminded of the things that we have prayed for and how receiving what we really want means that sometimes some things – and even some people – have to be left behind.


I sat, looking at my girlfriends’ photos on social media and longed to be with them, but in my spirit I felt that this was but one way that I was being separated from people and things that I needed to give less energy to. My friends are awesome and I love them, but I have so many things that I’ve been praying to have more time and energy to accomplish, and in that moment the Holy Spirit showed me where my attention was meant to be. I was reminded of the things I had been praying for, things I wanted to take to the next level and understanding what that required – despite how much fun I know my friends were having – I knew that I was right where I was supposed to be, doing what I was meant to do.

Sometimes it’s easy to get distracted from our goals by all of the shiny, flashy things in front of us: friends, parties, trips, and even job promotions that are outside the scope of what we are meant to be working on. As Christians we tend to say, “The Devil is busy,” when things get in our way or we begin to struggle or get tempted, but what if it’s not the devil? What if our struggle is because of our disobedience to God and His will over our lives? What if God is reminding us of what we prayed for? What if God is testing us with these temptations to see if we are truly as ready as we say we are for the things that we have asked for? What if we are being spiritually checked with a gentle, “Hey, girl, not right now.” Or, “Hey, girl, stay on task.” Or, “Hey, girl, that’s not what I told you to do.” Or, “Hey, girl, remember what you asked for; that over there ain’t part of the plan.”

Everything isn’t meant for us to have or be a part of, and when you begin to want more for yourself, your life, and your family you have to separate yourself in order to achieve your goals. Understanding – and being able to get family and friends to understand – that this does not negate your love for them can be difficult, but love them as best you can while holding fast to your plans because nothing is worse than giving up on yourself in order to make someone else happy.

Peace & Blessings.




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